Stop forcing your puppy to 'say hello'

The 'Social Butterfly' myth is creating reactive dogs across South Africa. Learn why neutrality is your new secret weapon.

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The Sea Point Promenade test

Socialisation isn't meeting everyone; it’s being able to ignore them. Can your pup walk past a cyclist or a jogger without losing their focus? That is the real goal.

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Ditch the Social Butterfly myth

When we let puppies rush up to every person, we teach them the world is a giant playground. This leads to over-arousal and a dog that can't settle at a cafe.

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The cost of 'Frustrated Greeting'

Does your dog lunge and bark when they can't reach a 'friend'? That’s frustration, not aggression. It happens because they expect interaction every single time.

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The Checkers car park strategy

Take your dog to a busy shopping centre car park. Don't walk. Just sit. Let them watch the world go by without reacting. Exposure beats interaction.

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Training for the 'Green Zone'

We want our dogs in a state of calm observation. Once they enter the 'Red Zone' of hyper-arousal, their brain stops learning and starts reacting.

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Biltong: The high-value secret

Use rewards that actually matter. In South Africa, plain biltong or ostrich cubes from Petworld are perfect for keeping focus in high-distraction zones.

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Mark the exact moment

When your dog looks at a distraction, mark it with a 'Yes!' or a clicker. Reward them for simply seeing the trigger without reacting. You're building a new habit.

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The 5-metre rule

If your dog won't take a treat, you're too close. Move away until they can focus again. Training only happens when your dog feels safe and sub-threshold.

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Read their silent signals

Watch for the 'whale eye' or lip licking. These are early warning signs that the environment is too much. Advocate for your dog before they explode.

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Defend your dog's space

In South African parks, off-lead dogs are common. It's your job to block them. Step into the 'bodyguard' role so your dog doesn't have to.

Neutrality isn't being unfriendly

It's giving your dog the gift of a quiet mind. A neutral dog can go anywhere—from a busy braai to a V&A Waterfront cafe—without stress or drama.

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