Stop letting them pat your dog

Every "friendly" greeting is training your dog to ignore YOU. Here is the Kiwi guide to a calm canine.

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The Myth of the "Friendly" Dog

In NZ, we love being friendly, but forcing your dog to meet everyone creates a "frustrated greeter"—a dog that lunges when they can't reach a distraction.

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Neutrality is the real goal

True socialisation isn't about constant playdates. It's your dog treating the world like boring background noise while staying focused on you.

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Play the "Look at That" game

When your dog sees a distraction and chooses to look back at you, reward them immediately. You're teaching them the value of disengaging.

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Use the high-value stuff

Forget boring kibble. Grab some ZiwiPeak or dried liver. You need high-value rewards to compete with a rolling skateboard or a seagull.

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Respect the 10-metre rule

If your dog is staring or refusing food, you are too close to the trigger. Move back 10 metres until they can follow a command again.

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The Bunnings/Mitre 10 Test

Practise neutrality outside the local dairy or DIY store. These real-world spots are where you build a reliable, calm companion.

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Beach day or battleground?

At the bach or beach, a neutral dog is a safe dog. Don't let intrusive off-leash "greeters" ruin your morning walk.

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Watch for "Whale Eye"

If you see the whites of their eyes or a stiff tail, your dog's "bucket" is full. Respect their limits and leave the situation immediately.

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Beware of Trigger Stacking

A windy day plus a loud truck can lead to a meltdown. Small stressors add up. If they aren't listening, they are likely overwhelmed.

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The "Treat Scatter" Trick

Is an off-leash dog rushing up? Scatter treats in the grass. Sniffing is a natural calming signal that helps your dog stay neutral.

It isn't anti-social. It's calm.

This protocol isn't about avoiding the world. It's about giving your dog the skills to enjoy a cafe in Napier or a trail in Taupo without stress.

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