Is your 'friendly' dog actually a nightmare?

If they bark or lunge at every dog they see, you've been taught socialisation all wrong. Here's how to fix it.

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The Myth of the Social Butterfly

Letting your pup greet every dog in Phoenix Park isn't socialisation. You're just training them to expect a party every time they see a tail.

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Stop the 'Meet and Greet'

When a dog can't reach that 'friend' on a lead, excitement turns into frustration. That frustration is what causes the barking and spinning.

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The Goal is Neutrality

True socialisation is the ability to see a child on a scooter or a cyclist and decide they simply aren't worth the attention. It's calm indifference.

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The 80/20 Rule of Walks

80% of your outings should involve zero interaction. Sit on a bench at the local GAA pitch and just watch the world go by. Don't touch, just look.

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Play the 'Watch and Dismiss' Game

When your dog notices a distraction, wait for the second they look back at you. Mark it with a 'Yes!' and reward them immediately. You're buying their focus.

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The Rainy Day Woodie's Drill

Head to a pet-friendly shop like Woodie's. It's a perfect controlled environment to practice ignoring the noise while staying on a loose lead.

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Respect the Threshold

If your dog is already barking, you're too close. Move back until they can think again. Distance is the best tool in your training kit.

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Mastering the Pub Settle

Can your dog lie under a table while the match is on? That’s elite neutrality. Start in quiet cafes before hitting the busy weekend spots.

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Beware of 'Trigger Stacking'

A windy day in Meath plus a field of sheep equals a higher stress baseline. If the environment is loud, adjust your distance and expectations.

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It's Okay to Say No

When someone asks if their dog can 'say hello,' just say: 'Sorry, we're in training.' Protect your dog's progress and their peace.

This isn't about being anti-social

It's about being pro-calm. A neutral dog is a dog that can go anywhere, from the Slieve Blooms to a busy Dublin cafe. That is true freedom.

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